Haven't we all wondered at some point,
"Why am I here?" For many, life is a series of lessons
in responsibility, a chain of opportunities to learn how to love.
For others, however, it has no point at all beyond the pleasure
of the moment.
How we answer the question
influences how we act and what we expect of others in all of life's
situations. Probably it is nowhere more obvious, however, than in
how we treat those we bring into this world: our children.
In the area of parenting,
the basic "Why am I here?" translates into "What
are children for? In our increasingly secular society, too many
view children as a nuisance, to be neglected when they cannot be
Leading medical research
suggests that, even before birth, children can sense when they are
unwanted and contract severe illness as a result. Any culture to
which the future generations are unimportant is likewise seriously
Caught between the lure
of "the good life," so temptingly touted by the media,
and the pressures of bringing up baby, too many parents abdicate
their responsibility. Even for those with strong spiritual roots,
the stresses of parenting are very taxing. To those with weak ones
or none at all, parenthood can seem like a trap. Instead of a sacred
responsibility, a child can appear to be a worthless, extra expense;
the punishment for a night of pleasure---or even an enemy.
Our society pays enormous
lip service to the institution of the family. Yet, many factors
in it distract parents from their primary duty. Once the glow of
the baby shower and cigars fades to the realities of diapers and
3 a.m. feedings, a couple (or single parent) finds that most of
the burden falls squarely on their own shoulders. If ill prepared
for their roles by their own upbringing, they may be overwhelmed
by the experience.
Mankind is not a species
born with enough instincts to survive on its own. Our complex society
makes it even tougher. In the past, when relatives lived closer
together, there was usually a grandparent, aunt or uncle to help
out. In today's world of fractured families, the State is all too
ready to fill the gap. If the parents are not there to teach the
children their values someone else will teach them theirs. What
do YOU think?
Possibly no other of
life's lessons is so deeply demanding or rewarding as parenthood.
Many people realize this instinctively, and there seems to be no
end to the varieties of assistance available. From mothers-in-law
to child psychologists, from toy and game manufacturers to book
publishers and school, exercise and athletic programs, each has
its own agenda. So does the child itself, as the parents soon learn.
Every child is our child.
slogan of UNICEF
(United Nations International Children's Emergency Fund)
With a 50 percent divorce
rate, widespread marital infidelity and domestic violence, adult
drug and alcohol abuse, is it any wonder that so many children are
illiterate and involved in gangs and crime? Are we surprised that
so many teenage girls are pregnant and so many college students
see getting drunk as their highest form of social expression?
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